sorry

ross, i'm sorry if i sounded harsh. but i know, as ironic as it sounds, i reali hope that you won't get hurt again. i was one of those girls that actually did that to you, and i truly am sorry, but i reali reali don't wanna see you get hurt again.

yup, go all out to woo her, and if that's what you want, i'll give you my fullest support. reali. you can even enlist me to help u out should the need arise but i want to let you know of the consequences first. knowing you, if you want something, you'll go all out to achieve it. (:

but listen to my side of the story. i'm similar to that girl in a sense that i was caught between you and my ex. i know the situation is slighty different, but there are similaritites too. you see, even if u manage to pressure her into go into a relationship with you, it would mean leaving her current guy. and if it was done within a few months and dates, how long can u keep this up? speaking from experience, love will fade, but as soon as that happens, the thing that keeps 2 people going is the memories as well as their commitment level. not every anniversary, or birthday, or valentine's day is gonna be as exciting as the first one, because as years pass, there are expectations to fulfill, and if one falls short of that expectation, then there'll be disagreements arising.

but, trying not to digress, if u reali manage to win her over on valentines' day, that would only be a one-off thing. for that moment, you may seem like the sweetest guy on earth, but as the relationship progresses on, she'll see that she'll be facing the same problems like she did with her ex, or worse, even newer problems that she can't handle. i believe in every relationship there will definitely be downs, but its just a matter of deciding to weather it together or just giving up and letting someone else replace the one that u currently have. i'm sorry that i had to hurt other people, in order for me to learn that lesson.

lastly, if she reali leaves the guy for you, she'll feel guilty. like it or not, admit it or not, she'll feel guilty. and at times, you may feel guilty too. if u hadn't come along, would she still rough it out with her guy? most probably yes. most girls need someone to love them and to assure them that they're the most important girl in the world, but after some time, the guys get tired of doing so, trust me. one day u will too ross. (it's not that i don't have faith in you. i do, but it's just the way girls and guys operate). and if she feels guilty, over time, she may return to that guy. but if she decides to remain with you, it'll take a very very very long time to truly forget that guy, because technically, he didn't do anything wrong. she was the one who wronged him by leaving him.

my analogy. imagine that ur girl was in the same situation as your dad. u get the idea, right? in the end, someone's gonna get hurt, its just a matter of who, and whether ur conscience allows you to make certain decisions or not.

just a thot. why would she even put herself on okcupid if she already was in a relationship? and why would she bother even to getting to know another guy and agrees to be with him, knowing that she has another guy? if the tables were turned one day (it might), den, ouch. it'll hurt.

ultimately, it's your life and hers, you don't have to answer to anybody, and you don't need a genius to tell you that. just be true to your heart and your mind, if possible, and omit as much hurt as possible ba.

here ends my nagging on this subject. at least for now. know that i reali mean well ross, as ironic as it may sound, knowing that i had a part to play in your failed relationships. for that, i'm truly sorry. anyway, who am i that you should listen to me?

but no matter what, i'll be there. i'll be there to congratulate u heartily on ur new-found love, but i'll also be there to wipe ur tears should that happens. okie?

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to end on a happier note, today i celebrated my birthday with my family at Borsche's. lovely!!! haha. shall upload the pics another day. hmm. so far i've had four different cakes le. my dance group got me a strawberry one, mindy baked me a truffle raspberry/strawberry one, my cell got me a vanilla one, and my family got me a chocolate mint one, from Jack's Place. wahaha. i feel so blessed and happy. shall upload everything after my actual birthday has passed. wonder what my bf intends to do for my birthday though. he's always so secretive. lol.

lesson learnt for today : be content with what you have, and expect less than what you desire. (: